Lordship – keep God at the center of your marriage. With God at the center, you are “humble and correctable.” And you are able to make it work even though your emotions say otherwise. Couples that worship and pray together have a far less chance of getting divorced.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it…..” Psalm 127:1a. N.K.J.V
Sacrifice – Great marriages require sacrifice in all areas of your life: emotional, physical, financial, spiritual…and yes, even with your entertainment. When you’re married, you can’t just make large purchases that will impact your marriage/family financially, you can’t just let your body and health go, and you can’t just let your temper get the best of you to the point where you say something you regret.
“Selfishness is at the root of every broken relationship.”
Investment – If you want to have a healthy marriage, then you will need to invest in it more than you withdraw from it. Just like your regular banking account, your marital banking account needs more deposits than withdrawals. You can’t keep taking away from your marriage with your actions and your words and not expect to go broke at some point. You must deposit into your marriage with things such as: marriage conferences, date nights/quality time, and affection and intimacy.
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he shall also reap.” Galatians 6:b. N.K.J.V.
Grace – In healthy marriages, when couples extend Grace to one another they are able to forgive each other even when their spouse does not deserve it.
“Listen to this carefully. I’m warning you. There’s nothing done or said that can’t be forgiven.” Mark 3:28a.
Covenant – People in healthy marriages know that marriage is more than a contractual relationship that can be just voided at the first sign of trouble or incompatibility. They know that they have entered into a covenant, a spiritually binding relationship between them and God.