Have you ever taken time to focus on your life and asked yourself this question? Well, there are a number of variables that would contribute to the answer of this question. It all boils down to one fact of whether you are in total control of your life; your actions, behaviors, opinions and decisions or whether someone else is. To be able to answer this question, we need to make one thing clear. Who are you, or what makes you the person you are?

indexEvery single person has a sense of self, of who they are and what makes them different from other people. As human beings develop, every individual becomes more aware of self and what uniquely differentiates him from another person. Self-understanding is usually a mental construction that is influenced by the socio-cultural context of an individual’s immediate environment. A person’s self-understanding would therefore be based on past and present experiences and interactions with his environment. At given times, this may also include future expectations of events.
Many times people will always fail to take off in their careers or destinies due to the crisis in the mind concerning who they really are. We may take it for granted but Identity crisis is a serious performance killer for anyone who is ever thinking of being successful in his quests. Unless you put your inner faculties in order, whatever anyone does to assist you will be efforts in futility.
Now, what triggers Identity confusion? This can be put in three phrases or questions.
How do I see myself?
How do others see me?
How would I like people to see me?
These three questions always determine how one behaves and which direction he will take in the process of pursuing success in his career. They are the main things that will determine where someone’s esteem and self-worth is placed at. In the long run they influence one’s performance in a great way either consciously or unconsciously.

Social Influence
An individual will always seek to find his or her place in the society by getting involved in activities that he/she believes will direct him/her towards the fulfillment of his/her dreams, goals and destiny. But in the process you come to realize that the opinion and judgments of others heavily affect their beliefs and values in the quest of becoming what they ought to be. Social influence therefore plays a significant role in diverting ones attention from his personal beliefs or what he ought to be and directs him to what otheimagers feel or expect him to be within the society.
As time passes by people always find themselves in a dilemma of trying to pursue what they believe defines them without losing the approval and acceptance of others. As a person’s social identity changes from one thing to another, role confusion also develops and eventually an individual would slowly move away from his actual or real personality which is formed by his innate abilities and acquired behavioral characteristics to that which is dictated by the community thereby losing his true identity.
The danger of this is that in the long run he will compromise on his values and principles and even give up on his own beliefs and goals to adopt those which are approved of by friends and peers. The question at this point would be this; how much are you willing to give up in order to win the approval of your peers, friends or the society? Will it make you a better you or will it turn you into one of them, or probably a carbon copy of what they present?

Well, this is what you need to focus on always while in doubt. What is your worth; to your friends, peers, the society? See if you are indispensable in their sight before allowing them to influence your opinions, character or behavior. However, you can exhibit and have positive influence on those around you by your character, beliefs and personality. Only then can one be contented with what he has become, what he has achieved and what he has accomplished. This is what gives one a sense of inner worth knowing that you’ve made positive contributions to the lives of others and in the process bettered your own.
Inner contentment is always driven by desire. There are two kinds of desire; positive & negative/unreasonable desires. The difference between positive & negative desire is not whether it gives you an immediate feeling of satisfaction but whether it ultimately results in positive or negative consequences.
On the flip side, as long as you mirror your life with those of others as a standard gauge, you will always feel that you are falling short. The reason for this is that in your quest to achieve similar goals, your experiences can never be the same however much you try to synchronize your lives to each other. This is what makes human beings unique; our experiences are always original and uniquely ours.
A Better Trustee
Many times in the process of seeking to meet our goals and trying to achieve what we ought to achieve in life, we get into tough situations which leave us in doubt at times and friends or family can’t be of much help. It is in such moments that one needs a confidant whom one is sure of to help him get through the tough situations or moments. Such people may come in terms of close mentors, best friends, prayer partners or even close family members. But still, in order for you to trust them to take you through such times; they must have proven over the years to be completely reliable in such situations.
All in all, one thing remains constant. Regardless of who comes into your life you should always ask yourself this question; Who is at the driver’s seat of my life? You have everything it takes to get yourself where you want to be. Better still, get a trust worthy co-driver. Mine is Christ. Because of His free will, God never gets on the driver’s seat of our lives and turn us into robots who would just follow unquestioningly. However, He can offer to be a co-driver who guides us along the way as we drive the course of our lives.index2.jpg

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Posted by on March 9, 2016 in Uncategorized


FORGIVEN!!;- by Jesse J. Mirega

To forgive or not to forgive “Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?”(Matthew 18: 21). This question posed to Jesus by…

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The Family At Christmas

The Story of Christmas

C2Christmas celebration  is an old tradition that is inspired by the Biblical story of the Virgin birth of Jesus Christ by Mary who was espoused to Joseph, both from the tribe of Judah in a tiny village in Bethlehem. The celebrations and festivities turkish-st-nicholas-imagesover the years developed and were inspired then shaped by various stories surrounding a certain historical Christian figure known as St. Nicholas in some places and Father Christmas in others who gave gifts to children with notably good behavior during Christmas. Thus, the story and festivities surrounding Christmas developed.

SantaSo over the centuries, Christmas was never Christmas without a visit from the age-old Santa who came with gifts from the North Pole on Christmas Eve and entered people’s houses through the chimney to stuff his gifts into the stockings by the fire place. It’s also not Christmas without the Christmas tree and all other decorations that accompany it. C5Then again, Christmas would not be Christmas without get together parties that would bring families and friends together and would involve lots of food and drink. So Christmas gained popularity and became a worldwide festival that was and is celebrated by Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists alike. It became a festival for all.

The Meaning of Christmas

But Why Christmas? What does it Mean?

JosephOver 2000 years ago a man and his pregnant fiancee went for census in their hometown Bethlehem. His wife was heavily pregnant and all the inns and lodges were full. They were full of fatigue and apprehension in their hearts. Fatigue because of the long journey on a donkey ride. Apprehension because of the mysterious miraculous baby that the angels of God had just informed them about some months earlier. The birth of Jesus Christ was about to change the world which God loved so much but was corrupted by sin, greed and selfishness.

Christmas for the Family

Family.jpgThis is what Christmas should mean for families. A savior is born. One who would mend the broken hearts, restore families, bring back sanctity to marriages, reunite sons to their fathers, daughters to their mothers and heal the whole family. Christmas is a time to reflect on the goodness of the Lord. And His perfect gift that would heal the broken world and bring the whole family together and restore broken relationships. It is a time of thanksgiving and give gifts of Love, Joy, Happiness and Laughter. But above all, for the family to come together as one, and be what God intended it to be.

C4Christmas is therefore a thanksgiving, for God’s perfect Gift; to bring healing and restoration to the family. For He is our father in heaven and showed us a perfect example of giving, by letting His only Begotten son to be born among us, so as to restore the world. Emmanuel Emmanuel!! Share the Christmas Spirit.Christmas

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The Touch of the Master’s Hand

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The Touch of the Master’s Hand

The Touch of The Master's Hand
Poem by Myra ‘Brooks’ Welch;

images.jpegTwas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer
ught it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin,
but held it up with a smile; “What am I bidden, good folks,” he cried,
“Who’ll start the bidding for me?” “A dollar, a dollar”; the
131019131211-01-high-auction-sales-1019-horizontal-large-galleryn two!” “Only
two? Two dollars, and who’ll make it three? Three dollars, once; three
dollars twice; going for three..”

44d9005f9a43b5ff93ecbb2ad8efbabaBut no, from the room, far back, a
gray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow; Then, wiping the dust
from the old violin, and tightening the loose strings, he played a melody
pure and sweet as caroling angel sings.

The music ceased, and the auctioneer, with a voice that was quiet and low,
said; “What am I bid for the old violin?” And he held it up with the bow.
A thousand dollars, and who’ll make it two? Two thousand! And who’ll make
it three? Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice, and going and
gone,” said he.

2011-02-07-audience7The people cheered, but some of them cried, “We do not
quite understand what changed its worth.” Swift came the reply: “The touch
of a master’s hand.”

And many a man with life out of tune, and battered and scarred with sin,
Is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd, much like the old violin, A
“mess of pottage,” a glass of wine; a game – and he travels on. “He is
going” once, and “going twice, He’s going and almost gone.” But the Master
comes, and the foolish crowd never can quite understand the worth of a soulimages2
and the change that’s wrought by the touch of the Master’s hand.


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Posted by on December 5, 2015 in Uncategorized





images“As Jesus walked beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw Simon and his brother Andrew casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen.” ‘Come, follow me’, Jesus said ‘and I will make you fishers of men’, at once they left their nets and followed him.” (Mark 1:16-18)

A mentor according to Oxford dictionary is an experienced person giving advice and guidance to a less experienced person within a period of time. Discipleship comes from the Greek word mathetes which means learner or student. If we look at Mentorship and Discipleship, we see one thing in common; a teacher and student. In both cases an experienced person gives advice and guidance to a less experienced person within a period of time. This means that mentorship or discipleship involves a close relationship between a student and his teacher or a mentor and his student.

Biblical History of Mentorship

  • index4The first clear picture of mentorship that we come across in the Bible is that between Moses and his successor Joshua. Although much is not said of how Moses took Joshua through the process of mentorship, we see instances where Joshua kept close to Moses even at the time he went to meet God at Mount Sinai.
  • Joshua went with Moses to the mountain but because he could not go up the mountain with him, he opted to wait at the foot of the mountain forty days and forty nights. (Exodus 32: 17, 18)
  • Later we see Moses handing over the mantle to Joshua when his time of service was over. He ensured that he introduced to the Israelites the man who would lead them to the Promised Land. (Deuteronomy 31:2-8)
  • Similar to the story of Moses and Joshua is that of Elijah and Elisha. Elisha continued with the work of his master Elijah and even did twice as much what Elijah did. We can attribute Elisha’s success in following the footsteps of his master on his obedience and dedication to his call.
  • Because of the kind of relationship that he had with his master, Elisha was able to know what he needed to do in the event that his master left him or was taken away from him.
  • This is the reason why when asked what he wanted, without hesitation he declared his interest of having a double portion of his master’s anointing, which he received as soon as Elijah was taken away.
  • Despite this successful transition from Elijah to Elisha, Elisha on the other hand was not able to do the same successfully for his servant Gehazi. Apparently Gehazi was obsessed with earthly riches that he missed the mark and didn’t follow his master’s footsteps (II Kings 9:19-27).


Mentorship for Young People

  • index2One reason why youths would have a problem in identifying suitable mentors or role models is that most of them are either not sure of what they want to do in life or there are few people who can stand out confidently as possible adequate role models for them.
  • We have seen many young Christians across the world trying to emulate some prominent tele-evangelists. If asked who their role models or mentors are they would quote some of these prominent tele- evangelists.
  • The problem with this idea is that rarely do we hear testimonials of how these people got to the current positions that they are in. The other problem is that these youths would hardly have on opportunity to share their experience with their respective mentors, therefore they know very little about their supposed mentors or role models.
  • It is very important that one’s role model or mentor be someone he can easily access for advice, guidance or directions. This would not only help that individual to have a concrete spiritual life but would also help him to avoid living an illusion. Having our role models or mentors close by would help a great deal in facing the daily challenges of life.

The VIEW of Mentorship

indexVision oriented. A good mentor must ensure that his student grasps the vision he holds, what the student hopes to achieve by learning from him and conscious of his purpose.

Impartial.A good mentor should also be impartial. This will ensure that no action is taken towards, or direction given to the student with clouded judgment.

Exemplary Character.This is one of the core qualities of a good mentor, he must have good leadership qualities, God fearing and of sound judgment.

Working Relationship.A good mentor must ensure that the relationship between him and his student is an open working one, consistent, easy accessibility to each other and within a given period of time.

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Posted by on November 30, 2015 in Uncategorized





A. The Right to Happiness

The Purpose happinessof Life
• The very purpose of our lives is to seek happiness, so the very motion of life is towards happiness.
• Happiness can be achieved through the training of the mind. This includes your intellect and feeling.
• By bringing about a certain inner discipline, we can undergo a transformation of our attitude, our entire outlook and approach to living based on our intellect, feeling, heart and mind.
• First we begin by identifying factors which lead to happiness and those leading to suffering then we gradually eliminate those leading to suffering & cultivate those leading to happiness.
• Personal happiness can manifest as a simple willingness to reach out to others. Happy people are generally found to be open minded, selfless, more sociable, flexible, creative, more loving & tolerant as opposed to unhappy people.

B. The Sources of Happiness
i) The Comparing Mind
• Happiness is deteMind.pngrmined more by one’s state of mind than external events or possessions. Success may result in a temporary feeling of elation but before long our overall level of happiness goes back to a certain baseline. (Psychologists call this process adaptation).
• Our moment to moment happiness is largely determined by our outlook, how we perceive the world, others, our situations or how satisfied we are with what we have, where and how we are.
• Our feelings of contentment are strongly influenced by our tendency to compare, comparing our present with past as well as ourselves with others.
• One’s level of life’s satisfaction can simply be enhanced by shifting one’s perspective and contemplating how things could be worse.
• As long as there is lack of inner discipline that brings the calmness of mind, no matter what external facilities or conditions you have, they will never give you the feeling of joy and happiness.

ii) Inner Contentment
• Inner contentment is driven by desire. There are two kinds of desire; positive & negative/unreasonable desires.
• The difference between positive & negative desire is not whether it gives you an immediate feeling of satisfaction but whether it ultimately results in positive or negative consequences.

iii) Inner Worth
• You can relate with other people because you share a bond of being human within the human community. This bond is enough to give rise to a sense of worth & dignity
• Without the feeling of affection and connection with other fellow human beings, life can become difficult.
• Let your inner worth not only be material but anchored in the value of your potential to relate with others generating a sense of dignity.

C. Training the Mind for Happiness
i) The PatMindworksh to Happiness
• The mind is the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness. Be conscious of your state of mind.
• The first step is learning. Learn the harm of negative emotions & thoughts as well as the usefulness of positive emotions & thoughts.
• Then work on getting rid of the negative emotions & thoughts as you cultivate the positive emotions & thoughts.
• If you cultivate & maintain a feeling of compassion & loving kindness then something automatically opens your inner door to communicate much more easily with other people. This creates a spirit of friendship.

ii) Mental Discipline
Yoga• Always identify & cultivate positive mental states while you eliminate negative mental states.
• Achieving genuine happiness may require bringing about a transformation in your way of thinking.
• Every day as you get up, purpose to develop a sincere positive thinking then as you go to bed ask yourself whether your mental state was as planned for the day. Critically look at the day & work on your flaws.
iii) Ethical Discipline
• Always perform wholesome actions (positive behaviors) & avoid indulging in unwholesome actions (negative behaviors).
• Changing how we perceive ourselves through learning & understanding can have a real impact on how we interact with others.
• The more sophisticated the level of our knowledge is, the more effective we will be in dealing with the natural world.
• We also need the ability to judge & measure the consequences of our behaviors, whether positive or negative.
D. Overcoming Obstacles
i) The Process of ChangeObstacles
• Learning is only the first approach to bringing about positive changes within oneself. This is followed by conviction, determination, action then effort.
• Great enthusiasm should then be developed to ensure that the above process is successful. Enthusiasm can be developed by constantly being aware of the destructive effects of that which you hope to change.
• Through constant familiarity, we can definitely establish new behavior patterns.
• When encountered by various obstacles in your quest to bring change, always stand back & consider the long-term view rather than the short-term view.
• If you feel like giving up hope, viewing the situation from a wider perspective can also be of great help.
• In facilitating change, human motivation is based on primary motives derived from biological needs & secondary motives derived from learned needs & drives.
ii) Realistic Expectations
• It’s always important to Motivationset reasonable expectations in order to achieve our true potential.
• Never lose sight of the importance of having a realistic attitude of being sensitive and respectful to the concrete reality of your situation as you proceed on the path towards your ultimate goal.
• Make a clear distinction between your ideals & the standards by which you judge your progress.
• It always makes sense when you criticize yourself. Having a self-to-self talk helps in seeking to identify & eliminate certain negative aspects of yourself as you enhance positive traits.
iii) Building Self Esteem
• A healthy sense of self confidence is a critical factor in achieving our goals. Low self-confidence limits our efforts to progress while inflated self-confidence can be equally hazardous.
• Fear & anxiety can be major obstacles to achieving our goals. Fears may be based on our own mental projections.
• You therefore need to reason out whether there is a valid basis for your fear or not.
• Cultivate a thought that if the situation has a solution & can be remedied, then there is no cause for worry. If there is no solution & it can’t be saved, then still there is no reason to worry over it.
• Reflecting on the diversity of disciplines that you may have knowledge of may help in boosting self-confidence.
• However dishonesty is one of the quickest ways of destroying self-confidence.
• So long as we know and maintain an awareness that we have this marvelous gift of human intelligence, & a capacity to develop determination and use it in positive ways, this realization can act as a built-in mechanism that allows us to deal with any difficulty no matter what situation we are facing.

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Posted by on November 27, 2015 in Uncategorized

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